Wednesday, 14 February 2018

I am an advocate

I am an advocate. And I am rare. Apparently only one percent of the population am I. Now that's pretty rare.
I know this is true because I took a personality test via the Internet.
I thought it would be fun, I had a spare five minutes whilst Tommy was splashing in the bath, pretending he was Bubble Monster.
Allow me to set the scene.
Tommy was continually shouting,"I am Bubble Monster!"
I was frantically trying to clean the bathroom, dress myself, catch up on social media, and ponder over my next Blog post, all at the same time.
Catch up on social media won the battle. I was seduced by the personality test, because quite frankly I am always fascinated by the human mind and behaviour, and I have been flirting with this idea for a blog post.
Yes you can stick your technology (even though I work for an engineering and technology based publishing firm, how ironic), it's emotions that do it for me. There are various training courses at work which have been offered, yet I confess to a low interest in new software and a high enthusiasm for people skills.
Particularly as recently there has been an awful lot of conflict in the office. It's really tested my boundaries as I hate conflict. Unfortunately, it aint possible to sail through life without dealing with stuff you're not comfortable with.
It's become even more apparent in my life recently that I am a people pleaser. Oh I am my happiest when inflicting happiness on others. Scarlet Moss Vintage is a fantastic example of this - I am in my element wrapping purchases for others and literally beaming with pride when I receive a review.
So, as I am still learning about myself (isn't it great that at the grand old age of 44 I can still do this!), and due to the fact I am trying my hardest to resolve issues at work, for others and myself, I delved right into that test on Google.

Here are the results:
Introverted 68%
Intuitive 78%
Feeling 93%
Judging 54%
Turbulent 68%
Role: Diplomat
Strategy: Constant improvement

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality
Help Me Help You
INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King
INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day
Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

And there you have it, dear readers. Quite frankly this is all so unbelievably true.
I think I understand myself on an even bigger scale now.
If you need me, I'm going to try and take care of myself too, as suggested above. I've been neglecting this recently. I'm going to give it my best shot anyway. Wish me luck.
I'll let you know how I get on.

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